The desire to pursue leadership is strong, but it often feels tangled up in a web of uncertainties, especially after becoming a mom. Can I really balance the demands of a leadership role with my aspirations of raising a confident, curious, and loved child who explores the world with open arms? Will I be able to give the role what it truly deserves in this competitive, fast-moving world? Will it be too overwhelming? These are questions I grapple with, and I know I'm not alone.
The Disappearing Women
During my decade-long career, I've always looked 1-2-3 levels up and noticed women disappearing as we move up the ladder, with only a few finally becoming leaders. I saw so many of my colleagues take breaks or stop working because of marriage or after becoming a mom. It used to make me nervous about this entire process of motherhood, especially since I loved what I was doing and felt like I was making an impact in the world.
But I also wanted to experience parenting, and it is truly more fulfilling than I ever imagined. I am and was so curious about the lives of every woman I met who held a role I aspired to. I literally asked some difficult questions to a few of them.
The Mental Load
Even from my current role, the mental load of anticipating these challenges can be overwhelming, and thus, we block ourselves from our dreams. It's the constant juggling act, the invisible work that often goes unnoticed. This invisible load can make the path to leadership seem even steeper, casting doubt on whether it's even worth pursuing.
A Unique Perspective on Leadership
But here's the thing: My experience as a mother has given me a unique perspective on what it means to lead. It's about:
- Nurturing - Creating space for growth
- Empowering - Helping others reach their potential
- Creating a supportive environment - Where everyone can thrive
- Leading with empathy - Understanding the challenges of those around me
- Resilience - Pushing through despite obstacles
What We Need
We need more than just policies; we need a cultural shift that recognizes the unique strengths that working mothers bring to leadership roles. We need more companies that invest in helping moms reach their full potential and overcome self-doubt. Let's build a network of support where women can share their experiences and offer encouragement.
The Bottom Line
Despite the uncertainties, I refuse to let motherhood dim my leadership aspirations. To all the mothers out there with big dreams: you are capable, you are worthy, and you are not alone.
Let's create a world where motherhood and leadership are not mutually exclusive.